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  1. One more time

    May 4, 2010 by elfqueen

    If you’ve been reading the other posts in this series, you know that I have four sons.  I have learned something from all of my sons, but one of them has taught me more than all of the others.  My youngest son was born five years after the last one.  My husband and I went back and forth for some time and finally agreed we would like to have one more baby.  By this time our two oldest children are in Jr. High and we have a 2nd grader, 1st grader and another about to start kindergarten.  We bought a van that would seat 6 and we were ready!  This was my first truly planned pregnancy.  I was looking forward to another baby!

    Looking back, there were signs.  I started spotting early.  I hadn’t even had my first doctor’s appointment when it began.  I was on vacation and called the doctor to get advice because in all of my previous pregnancies I had never had any problems.  This was new to me and a little scary.  The nurse told me to take it easy and if it got worse or persisted, to call back or go to the emergency room.  I rested that afternoon and the bleeding stopped.  I continued with my vacation and had no further problems prior to my first checkup. 

    A couple more months into my pregnancy, I spotted again.  This time I was really frightened.  I was about 5 months pregnant and it was the second time during this pregnancy. I called the doctor and again was advised to go home and stay off my feet for the rest of the day.  If it persisted, I was welcome to call back and schedule a visit with the doctor.  I went home (I was at work) and went right to bed.  I believe I stayed home the next day as well just to be safe.

    Dressed for Work (safety orange and boots) Andy at 4 yrs.

     I need to mention something else.  I fell a LOT during this pregnancy.  I don’t really know why.  I would be walking along and then just fall.  Almost as if I had twisted my ankle.  My ankles just gave out I guess.  I hadn’t really gained a lot of weight-about 40 lbs total. Although that was more than I had with my four previous pregnancies. 

    I should also point out that this was my most enjoyable pregnancy (aside from the seeming medical issues).  I was approaching 40, and I think that the stress of weight gain, etc. just didn’t bother me this time.  I was fairly financially secure and was able to eat how I liked, dress how I liked, and with my kids being a little older, I was able to rest often as well.  I was happy.  I knew this was my last time and I really enjoyed myself and the growing baby.

    It  was my best and worst pregnancy.


  2. Another brother?

    April 19, 2010 by elfqueen

    Shortly after the birth of my second son, I met a man. He was a nice man and didn’t really seem to have any hang ups.

    Apparently he liked me and he moved in with me when my youngest son was only a couple months old. We lived together for several months and quickly became engaged.

    It was at this point that I became pregnant. Unfortunately, this man had a burning desire to join the army, and as he was quickly approaching the upper age limit (27 years old), and his test scores were such, that when the Army offered him a temporary waiver for the test and and a spot in the infantry, he just couldn’t pass up this once in a lifetime chance.

    What he didn’t count on was my reluctance to quit my 5 year job with the County and to leave my entire family and move to OKLAHOMA for goodness sakes! For the infantry! Not too smart.

    He got the news in December and I dropped him off with the recruiter at the end of February. I did NOT look back. Our daughter was four months old.

    I can’t wait to tell you about my daughter. I have had comments asking about her and I will have plenty to say about her, you can count on it. But this is a story about brothers.

    At this point in my life I found myself with an 8 year old son from my first marraige, a 2 year old son born out of wedlock, and now, a 4 month old daughter also born out of wedlock. If you hadn’t guessed, the wedding between HER father and I was O-F-F!

    I should probably tell you this. My daughter’s father really did believe he would be able to talk me into coming to Oklahoma after he finished his basic training. ARE YOU KIDDING ME?!

    About this time, an old friend from high school starts hanging around. Not just any old friend. It is the same guy I dated after my first son was born.

    This is a guy that was my best buddy all through High School. We grew up on the same street. I met him when he moved to our town in 8th grade at the morning bus stop (as mentioned in previous post). That is another story of it’s own!

    Long story, but here’s important part-he proposed to me within a couple of months. There is one stipulation. He wants another child. Let me tell you this-He has a seven year old daughter from his first marraige. I have three already – the last two are only 20 months apart. Another baby? Is he crazy? You bet he is.

    He wants another son. I agreed. Who’s the crazy one? I will say this-I really, really, really did NOT want to have another baby. I was tired…of being pregnant, of not sleeping through the night, of changing diapers, of making bottles, you get the picture!

    Well, I caved.

    We were married in August and I got pregnant within the month! Lack of birth control might have been the reason. Ya think?

    Another brother?!

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